Super Heroes and Drums??

"The great challenge which faces us is to assure that, in our society of big-ness the grand orchestration of society leaves ample room for the man who marches to the beat of a different drummer."                                                                                                                    Hubert Humphries 

When I was a senior in high school, I was one of 12 or so students asked to write a speech for our baccalaureate ceremony.  As best I can remember, we were all given a letter, which related to a topic. I was given the "I" for Individuality.  As we were coached along in our speech writing, by Ms. Hazel Haley, we were "encouraged" to start our speeches with a meaningful quote.  I chose the quote above.  (Leave it to Chris to point out the foreshadowing to include a drummer....but we'll leave that for another post.)

But, I believe God knew then, that not only would I go on to marry a drummer....I would go on to raise a son who would "march to the beat of a different drummer."  This year, Harper's birthday party was no exception...and I couldn't be prouder.  

Most of you reading this already know that Harper has a great affinity towards art.  He really enjoys creating things and he seems to be pretty good at it.  Last year, he started taking art classes at an incredibly perfect art studio, Art Centric.  However, when October rolled around and we started planning his birthday party, the art studio became less than incredibly perfect.  He was afraid his friends wouldn't come, since most of his friends are into sports...not art.  He was afraid his friends would be bored.  And he wanted them to at least show up.  

But this year, when October rolled around, we asked him about Art Centric again.  And again he said he didn't think his friends would want to come to an art party.  Being a year older and wiser, we thought he was ready for a conversation about this.  We told Harper.... "Friends don't come to a party because it's something they want to do.  Your birthday party is for you.  You should do things that you want to do.  If they are truly your friends, they'll come because they want to celebrate you."  We also told him that it could be that his friends never really experienced art like he has.  This could be a great opportunity for him to share something he loves.

We said just what we "should have" said.  But the truth was, we were nervous.  What if Harp was right?  What if his friends, most of whom played baseball, didn't come to the party?  And if they did come, what if they didn't have fun?  

As his birthday party drew near, Ms. Becky at Art Centric was just amazing!  She worked with Harper to orchestrate the perfect painting party.....Super Heroes!  How fitting....in more ways than one.  While she had never hosted a Super Hero painting party, they worked together to come up with 3 "super" cool designs the boys could choose from.  And would you believe every single boy we invited, came...and, seemed to have a really good time.  And Harper walked away with an even greater sense of confidence.

Fast forward a couple of weeks after the birthday party.....as I scrolled through Instagram, I saw a post from Art Centric, showcasing their their latest Parent Night Out....Super Heroes!  Not only did Harp have the perfect birthday party for him....but he helped Art Centric create a new theme for Parent Night Out! How quickly the insecure boy became the "super hero"....and all because he chose to march to the beat of a different drummer!  

Soul Sistas

Several years ago, I was involved in a women's Bible study with some incredible women of faith.  While that Bible study group ran it's course and most of us moved in different directions, three of us remained close and now call ourselves the Soul Sistas.  Sheri, Betsy and I are each ten years apart; I'm the youngest.  We meet (somewhat) regularly for dinner and fellowship, but have never had an experience like the one we did a couple of months ago.

We keep a list of restaurants and normally pick somewhere to go off of the list (this way we don't have to rethink all the different choices, every single time).  However, this particular evening, one of us suggested a new place in town, Ovation Bistro & Bar.  None of us had been yet, so we decided to give it a go.  (See earlier blog post about opening your box and adjusting your plans.)

We met for dinner and were greeted by a super cheerful waitress, who introduced herself as "Sam, like Sam I Am."  Over the course of our 5-hour dinner, we caught up and shared important things happening in each other's lives.  Having ten years between us, always gives us good perspective for (most of) what we're facing.  We laughed as we shared family successes and we grew teary as we talked about family and personal struggles.

As "Sam I Am" kept checking in on us, we talked more and more with her and sat, literally, in awe as the evening unfolded.  We learned that Sam, who just turned 21, had been an orphan for quite some time.  Both her parents had passed and she had been homeless for several years.  Often she took care of the elderly, just to have a place to stay.  She shared with us that she was hoping to go to college to become a teacher.  (It's no coincidence that Sheri and I are both teachers, sitting at Sam's table.)  Her struggle, now, is that because she was never in the foster care system, she doesn't have a "number" to apply for financial aid, so college tuition is up to her right now.  She just purchased a car and, on top of her living expenses, has very little left for college.  

Then, she shared some of her personal struggles growing up, some of which mirrored exactly what I had just shared with my "sistas."  She spoke directly to me with the wisdom of an adult and said exactly what I needed to hear in that moment.  So much so, I ended up in tears.  And, those who know me well, know I don't just "tear up".....I ugly cry.  Every. single. time.  (Again, no coincidence.)

Fast forward a couple of weeks.  A sweet teacher friend of mine at school reached out asking if my church accepted donated women's clothes.  I told her about my experience at Ovation and asked if she would mind if I gave them to Sam I Am, instead.  (I took a guess that this teacher probably wore the same size-ish as Sam I Am.)  I reached out to Sam who was beside herself, literally speechless and in tears, as she drove over to pick up the bags of clothes.  It's no surprise that they fit her to a "T".

One of the most powerful Bible studies we did with our women's group was on the book of Esther.  Esther 4:14 has since become one of my favorite Bible verses, "And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?"  I have no doubt that Sam-I-Am was put into my life that very night, "for such a time as this"....just as, I hope, we were put into hers, too.  Next time you stop in to Ovation...be sure and ask for Sam-I-Am.  Tell her I sent you!  

Full Circle: Solo & Ensemble

Life has really come full circle lately.  Chris and I were both super involved in music, growing up...and even still.  Being in band meant participating in Solo & Ensemble every year.  Something we both did beginning in seventh grade.

This year, in sixth grade, Warren began playing percussion in band and.....had the "opportunity" to participate in Solo & Ensemble.  He worked on his solo, a bit secretly, for several months at school.  And with the help of his sweet band director, Mr. McElwain, he was ready for his solo performance last weekend!  For those of you asking and wondering, Chris actually worked very little with Warren.  In fact, neither of us had heard the entire solo until he performed it for the judge.  Trying to "teach" your own kid doesn't prove to be very successful in our home.

So, like Chris and I did growing up, we loaded up the grandmas and all headed over to Lake Region, where we'd sit in the cafeteria while Warren warmed up before his scheduled performance.  It brought back so many fun memories for us as we sat, in a cafeteria filled with a loud mismash of instruments.....and watched him work through his nerves, practicing two especially tricky measures.  We talked him through the nervous mind game...."Don't practice it too much at this point.  You know it.  Just relax.  Take a break from it for a little bit."

And all the while, Harper sat.  (As a sidenote.....kudos to Harp, as he is the most patient, supportive little brother.)  Warren had already decided that he was too nervous and really didn't want all of us to go in the room while he performed.  When Mr. McElwain came over, we talked for a bit and he told us he and his intern were going to be at Warren's solo.  I casually said "Oh good!  Warren doesn't really want us in the room, so we're all gonna just sit outside the door."  And he sweetly looked at me and smiled, and said "Oh, well, we're gonna go inside."  I guess you get to do that as the teacher.....just not as the mom or dad.  So, we all resorted to the fact that we'd sit outside the room.

As we left the cafeteria and headed to the judging room, mom told Warren that she'd been praying for him and knew he would do well....to which Warren replied, "So have I Mimi!  When I took a shower, I just let the water fall on me while I just prayed!"

We found the judging room, with plenty of time to spare.  And with plenty of time to pace the hallway, nervously.  And with plenty of time to see the flood of people standing in the hallway.  And with plenty of time....well, you get the idea.

After listening to a couple of the other students, the judge finally popped his head out and called Warren's name.  So....we all sat, while Mr. McElwain and the intern went inside with Warren.  Well, that is.....we sat after Chris finished setting up the drum (the same drum Chris used for his solos....and the same drum he's been working on "restoring" for this very night).

When Chris walked out, he immediately began secretly recording Warren's performance.  He crossed his fingers as Warren approached the two tricky measures and immediately gave a huge air fist bump when he nailed it!  I all but paced the small hallway, trying to peek, but still stay out of Warren's line of sight.  The grandmas stood at the end of the hallway, trying to juggle between watching Warren, and watching Warren's two incredibly proud parents.  And Harper....you guessed it.  Harper sat.  But, Harper didn't just sit.  He sat with his little hands folded, praying for his big brother.  (Probably praying he did well, so we didn't have to "deal" with the wrath of disappointment and anger that would surely ensue if he didn't do well.....but, praying nonetheless.)

Warren finished and walked out with a smile.  We all congratulated him on finishing, no matter what the judges score said.  As we walked back over to the cafeteria where we would "sit and wait" for scores to be posted, Warren turned to me and said "Mom, I just want to cry though.  I don't feel like I did very well and I really messed up on a couple of parts."  I told him to hold the tears until the scores came out and if the scores reflected that he didn't do so well, then he could cry.  Otherwise...."Suck it up, Buttercup."

We found a couple of chairs and a waiting spot...and while we waited, Harper sat.  Again the memories came flooding back.  I remember the nervous excitement, so well....waiting for scores to be posted and thought about how these nights would become such fun memories for Warren, too.  At first,  the high school "runners" got fumbled up with the tape used to post the scores.  We waited.  Then, with each batch of scores, Warren (and every other kid) walked up to the wall to find it wasn't his turn yet.  So, we waited....and Harper sat.  When Warren's scores were finally posted, Chris and I couldn't have imagined the smile that would come as a result of his hard work!  He earned his first Superior!  In fact, we were all smiling.  Even Harper....for his sitting and waiting was finally over and we could go celebrate with ice cream!

Hard earned smile....and a fist bump!